Your biggest obstacle to success is yourself. The rest of the world is too busy to actively get in your way. If your lack of success is your fault, you can take steps to address the situation.
There are a variety of ways you sabotage yourself. You procrastinate, think negatively, and have other harmful habits. I do all of these…almost every day.
Be honest with yourself and look at the times in your life when success slipped through your fingers. Can you see how you are at least partly to blame?
By using these strategies it can help put an end to self-sabotage and claim your right to success…
1.) Be Clear Regarding What You Want
One way to sabotage yourself is to keep changing your mind. You might spend months working toward one goal, only to change your mind. Indecisiveness is a success killer. Be clear about what you want and be consistent. I know this all too well!
2.) Notice How You Waste Time
Yep. I’m talking to you. (and myself!) We all I do this. That’s why we’re human. So what do you do when you procrastinate? Do you like to watch TV? YouTube videos? Go shopping? Have a snack? Waste hours cleaning…me, while my brain keeps thinking about what I actually SHOULD be doing. You can’t stop yourself from wasting time unless you can recognize that you’re wasting time. I recognize it, I just need to get better at NOT doing it! It may help to make a list of your time-wasting behaviors and pay attention when they happen. You can make a mental note of it, but I do think it’s better to write things down…somehow it seems more justifiable.
Understand the repercussions of your behavior. Time-wasting behaviors feel good in the short-term. That’s probably all you’re considering. Turn your attention to the bigger picture. What will happen down the road if you continue to waste time? Consider the consequences.
Here is a checklist you can print off to help!
3.) Stop Negative Self-Talk
Life is challenging enough! You don’t have to make things even more difficult by getting in your own way. Monitor yourself. If you catch yourself speaking poorly to yourself, stop and say something positive instead, even if you have to put sticky notes everywhere to remind yourself!
4.) Hang Out With Positive, Supportive People
The people around you can sabotage your efforts. This is really a form of self-sabotage because you chose your friends. Make the necessary adjustments to spend time with those who support your success.
5.) Learn To Deal With Discomfort
Self-sabotage is a strategy for dealing with discomfort. If you weren’t uncomfortable at all, you’d never sabotage yourself in the first place. Understand that discomfort is necessary if you want to change your life in a meaningful way. All roads to success lead through discomfort.
6.) Visualize Success
The idea of success might be more stressful than you think, especially if you’ve gotten used to failing. Part of you might believe it’s better to deal with the “devil you know.”
Take a few minutes each day and visualize yourself being successful. Notice how it feels. Keep up this routine until success feels completely natural.
Think about why you might find failure appealing. What are the advantages to you of failing?
Good read if you struggle like I do! ==> Why We Self-Sabotage
7.) Avoid Comparing Yourself To Others
We compare ourselves to the most talented people we know. Everyone is better than you at something. But we compare our weaknesses to the strengths of others.
You can always improve from where you were last week. That’s the key to success.
It’s not easy to notice how you get in your own way. Examine your habits and your past failures. Do you expect to succeed or do you start searching for excuses to fail before you’ve even gotten started?
Success can be just as scary as failure. This is particularly true if failure has become the norm.
Stop getting in your own way. You can enhance the results you’ve been experiencing and discover the joys of success instead!
Until next time,